Reader, have you ever noticed yourself nodding yes even when every part of you wants to say no?

Maybe you find yourself smoothing things over, shrinking a little, staying quiet to keep the peace, avoid conflict, or just not feel like “too much”?

• These patterns are not only thought habits.
• They’re not personality quirks.
• They're are definitely not even the flaws you think they are.

They’re protective strategies—rooted in something deeper than a thought pattern.

In this week’s blog, we explore something powerful: 👉 The unconscious beliefs behind people-pleasing, overthinking (& any other pattern you can't shift).

In it, you'll see how beliefs you aren't even aware of quietly shape your everyday reactions, relationships, and choices.

In the article, we’ll unpack:
✨ What unconscious beliefs are and how they’re formed.
✨ Why your nervous system holds onto these patterns (even when they hurt).
✨ How people-pleasing, conflict-avoidance, and overthinking are attempts to feel safe.
✨ How to start gently identifying—and shifting—these deeper patterns.

👉 [Read the full blog post here]

What’s causing the beliefs behind your people-pleasing and overthinking?

When we talk about beliefs, most of us think of the conscious kind, ideas we can put into words like, “I believe in staying optimistic,” or “I believe people deserve kindness.”

But patterns that feel harder to shift (like saying yes when we want to say no, or spiraling in self-doubt) are often from unconscious beliefs behind people-pleasing and overthinking & are quietly running the show.

In psychology, we call these deeper beliefs schemas.

Schemas are beliefs that don’t live in the thinking mind. They’re stored deeper—in the emotional and protective parts of our brain—and they can shape our responses before we even realize what’s happening.

Because of how the brain is wired, these beliefs are harder to access, but in reality, they have a much stronger influence on how we think, feel, and respond to the world than our conscious beliefs do.

In many ways, these deeper beliefs drive the bus, even when we’re not aware they’re in the driver’s seat.

Here’s the truth: These patterns once helped & protected you. But they may not be serving you anymore. And even though they feel so automatic now, they can change.

That’s the beauty of this work. Once we bring the unconscious into the conscious, we can meet ourselves with more compassion and GIVE ourselves more choice.

When you are aware of the hidden agenda your patterns shift more easily.

The work gets waaaay easier.

Remember to receive the benefits of the full article: https://tessrene.com/people-pleasing-or-overthinking/​

Does change feel too hard?

If you find yourself circling around the same patterns.

OR

If you have changed your thoughts about a circumstance but the feelings stay the same, do not despair.

You are not the problem Reader, the pattern is.

And what was learned can be unlearned.

If you want to trade surface-level Change for deep Transformation:

✨You want to stop learning more & start doing more.
✨You're feeling ready to find yourself & not who you learned to be.
✨You're (mostly) willing to try unlocking the old patterns running the show (without your knowledge).
✨You just want to try something different because the old tricks aren't working...

I’d be honored to walk alongside you Reader.

Let’s begin the work together: 👉 Work with Tess​

With warmth,