A few weeks ago Reader, I was driving through the Rocky Mountains, one of those endless winding roads that seems to rise and fall with its own heartbeat. "When the road disappears, trust the next turn..." Fog rolled in suddenly, soft and thick, hiding every curve ahead. My shoulders tensed, my breath shortened, and I caught my mind whispering its old familiar stories:What if the road gets worse? What if I miss a turn? What if I can’t see what’s coming? That’s catastrophizing: when fear grabs...
6 months ago • 1 min read
Forgive this earlier-than-usual send Reader, but 2 of my clients asked if part 3 of this series could drop earlier. If they were feeling impatient you might be too, so let's go... Ever tried to logic your way out of panic? “...I know they’re probably just busy so why do I feel like I’m being rejected, judged or abandoned?” That’s the moment we hit the limit of what awareness or 'thinking' your way to a solution can reach. 🌿Welcome to Part Three of the Fear of Abandonment Series: We dive into...
8 months ago • 1 min read
Hi Reader, I promised a deeper dive into schemas this week, but instead let's get light!! (& in a couple weeks I'll send the deeper dive) The beauty about feeling light & happy is the power you have over it. Joy & humour help you to to handle life. They aren't avoiding the problem, they are part of the solution! You’re wired to feel the full spectrum: grief, hope, disappointment AND delight. If you’ve been following me you’ve heard me say it before; emotions just are. They’re messengers, not...
10 months ago • 1 min read
Hi Reader, Ok, Wow. After last week's email about unconscious beliefs, my inbox lit up.So many of you wrote back with reflections, ahas, and one big question: “What exactly is a schema?” I touched on it briefly last week, but your replies made it clear this needs a deeper dive. So, we’ll explore it more fully later this week. For now, here’s a refresher: Schemas are beliefs that don’t live in your thinking mind.They’re tucked deeper in the emotional and protective layers of your brain.They...
10 months ago • 1 min read
Reader, have you ever noticed yourself nodding yes even when every part of you wants to say no? Maybe you find yourself smoothing things over, shrinking a little, staying quiet to keep the peace, avoid conflict, or just not feel like “too much”? These patterns are not only thought habits. They’re not personality quirks. They're are definitely not even the flaws you think they are. They’re protective strategies—rooted in something deeper than a thought pattern. In this week’s blog, we explore...
10 months ago • 2 min read
I hear from a lot of you the frustration you feel with yourselves when you engage in habits that you know hurt you, but find hard to stop. Can you relate Reader? Today, we're talking about one of those habits: Catastrophizing thoughts. If you are one of my clients or have been in my community for a while, you probably know what catastrophizing is, but it is worth a recap. Why? Because when we "know" something, those are the exact areas we miss and which cause distress and pain in our lives....
11 months ago • 5 min read
What happens when you don't process your grief, Reader? What happens when you avoid dealing with loss? People often say that time heals. But I would argue—it doesn't. Not unless you allow yourself to work through your pain, little by little. Grief is deeply personal. There’s no single path, no checklist, no deadline for mourning. But there is a critical difference between processing your grief and avoiding it. Those who process their grief allow themselves to face the pain in small doses....
11 months ago • 7 min read
2025!!?? It's hard to believe isn't it Reader? Every year I complete an annual year-end ritual & just did mine for 2024. There was such a great response to it last year that I'm sharing that ritual again with you this year... ...but before I do, I want to support you by naming some ways we use self-reflection & adjusting them so that reflection becomes helpful, not harmful to you. COMPARISON:As we wrap up 2024, you may have fallen into the comparison trap, focusing on where you’re not yet....
over 1 year ago • 2 min read
"Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile is the source of your joy." —Thich Nhat Hanh Whether it's joy or sadness, emotions aren't good or bad Reader. They FEEL good or bad, but feelings are not facts - & you can have a massive impact on them. Part of your human experience is to feel sad, happy & everything in between Reader. If you follow my posts on Facebook or Pinterest, you are learning that emotions aren't good or bad, they just "are." Letting yourself...
over 1 year ago • 1 min read